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When Violence Is the Answer: Learning How to Do What It Takes When Your Life Is at Stake
Tim Larkin
4.13 AVERAGE
23 reviews for:
When Violence Is the Answer: Learning How to Do What It Takes When Your Life Is at Stake
Tim Larkin
4.13 AVERAGE
This book does what is says. It will help you gain the mindset and knowledge that I pray you will never need. I was sceptical at first but hooked by the end. Check it out if you're interested in self defense.
Good book. This is my first re read after close to a decade. Really interesting perspective. Worth reading every several years.
4.5
I really loved this book. It is one I'm sure I'll revisit.
I really loved this book. It is one I'm sure I'll revisit.
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Гледайки кадри от протестите, които избухват както в САЩ, така и в китната ни държавица напоследък и четейки коментари на всякакви хора относно тия протести и сблъсъците на протестиращите едни с други и с полицията, ясно виждам, че повечето хора, както от протестиращите, така и от коментиращите, хабер си нямат от това какво е насилие.
За повечето хора, особено тия дето се имат за по-умни и по-красиви, насилието е нечувано и нежелано нещо и в техните очи то само се случва на тях, те винаги са в ролята на жертвата. И винаги този, който губи конфронтацията, те приемат за добрия и правия.
Особено забавни за мен са изказванията относно това как трябва да се държат хората при физическа конфронтация едни с други, кое било ок и кое не - почти толкова забавни, като крясъците към екрана по време на мач от човек, който никога не е играл футбол, но е убеден, че знае за играта повече, отколкото съдията, коментатора, треньорите и футболистите взети заедно.
Само че на света има хора, които живеят с насилието и ако се опиташ да им преподаваш правила ще ти се изсмеят в лицето, ще ти счупят краката и ще изнасилят дъщеря ти, докато ти гледаш. Или ще ти счупят главата с павета по време на "мирния" си протест.
When Violence Is the Answer има само една основна идея - че когато ножът опре до кокала, добрите хора винаги губят и страдат от това, защото умствено не могат да приемат, че могат да упражняват насилие, за да се спясят.
В техните представи, някак те успяват да се "защитят" без да нанесат някакви поражения на нападателя си, защото това би било лошо и така биха "станали като него". Само че като се "защитиш" от един удар с нож, убиецът ти просто ще замахне още колкото пъти е нужно за да те намушка.
Цялата книга може да се сведе до обяснението, че не бива да щадиш някой, който те напада и застрашава живота и здравето ти, а трябва да действаш така, че той да не е в състояние да те застраши повече. Дори това да означава да пробиеш и извадиш с нокът окото на някой, който се опитва да те изнасили, примерно.
Разбира се, още по-добре би било просто да избягаш, ако можеш. А най-добре, да не влизаш в конфронтация изобщо - което Тим Ларкин обяснява подробно.
За повечето хора, особено тия дето се имат за по-умни и по-красиви, насилието е нечувано и нежелано нещо и в техните очи то само се случва на тях, те винаги са в ролята на жертвата. И винаги този, който губи конфронтацията, те приемат за добрия и правия.
Особено забавни за мен са изказванията относно това как трябва да се държат хората при физическа конфронтация едни с други, кое било ок и кое не - почти толкова забавни, като крясъците към екрана по време на мач от човек, който никога не е играл футбол, но е убеден, че знае за играта повече, отколкото съдията, коментатора, треньорите и футболистите взети заедно.
Само че на света има хора, които живеят с насилието и ако се опиташ да им преподаваш правила ще ти се изсмеят в лицето, ще ти счупят краката и ще изнасилят дъщеря ти, докато ти гледаш. Или ще ти счупят главата с павета по време на "мирния" си протест.
When Violence Is the Answer има само една основна идея - че когато ножът опре до кокала, добрите хора винаги губят и страдат от това, защото умствено не могат да приемат, че могат да упражняват насилие, за да се спясят.
В техните представи, някак те успяват да се "защитят" без да нанесат някакви поражения на нападателя си, защото това би било лошо и така биха "станали като него". Само че като се "защитиш" от един удар с нож, убиецът ти просто ще замахне още колкото пъти е нужно за да те намушка.
Цялата книга може да се сведе до обяснението, че не бива да щадиш някой, който те напада и застрашава живота и здравето ти, а трябва да действаш така, че той да не е в състояние да те застраши повече. Дори това да означава да пробиеш и извадиш с нокът окото на някой, който се опитва да те изнасили, примерно.
Разбира се, още по-добре би било просто да избягаш, ако можеш. А най-добре, да не влизаш в конфронтация изобщо - което Тим Ларкин обяснява подробно.
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Great book! Not exactly a how to protect yourself, but how to have the necessary mindset to recognize when your life is actually in danger and what you might have to do to.
Phenomenal lessons on situational awareness, violence, and kindness
Loved this book! He teaches to embrace the ugly and think like a criminal like Batman discovered. How this came about is the author had a crappy eardrum injury (which sounded painful AF) during BUDs and I believe that ruined his whole chances of getting it. But he was able to transform that whole ordeal into a new career and this book. It makes me wonder what I can do with my collapsed lung that I just got.
I really want to take the weekend self defense course or whatever it was that he offers (read it a year ago and I'm finally getting to the review now) that this guy offered. I think it's worth the few thousand gold. He helps his clients train slow because slow training helps you develop a plan. This is because you're more likely to suffer from a lack of accuracy than a lack of speed.
"Slow is smooth, smooth is fast, and fast is deadly."
He talks a lot about asocial situations. A situation is asocial if there is no communication and the other person is already taking physical action and there's no available exit. You can't talk (or possibly run) your way out of this one. You have to resort with violence. With that said, if you ask yourself, "should I hit you?" you should not. I really liked how he talked about deescalating the situation. So he's not a proponent of just 100% violence all the time. You actually have to read the book.
Let's dive into the notes:
What thoughts do you want emerging from your brain when you're life is on the line? "I'm done" or "Let's do this!"
Techniques get you killed, principles save your life. The rules of asocial violence are very simple: Don't make yourself a target, focus your mind, know the human body, act first, intend to injure, and don't stop until he's incapacitated or dead.
A real killer doesn't want to communicate anything with anyone. Angry face that you see on the movies are fake.
Anything we can do to be more alert makes us less likely to become a target. We're deaf and blind with out dumb earbuds in and glued to the screen. By wearing headphones, you attract those kinds of people that you're trying to avoid, because of asocial people don't have rules.
Humans are hard wired for violence. And yet our capacity for compassion has made us the most advanced species.
"Anytime you attempt to bury your head in the sand and deny the existence of violence in your world, you are not only giving up your power but you are giving it over to the perpetrators of random violence who's existence you are trying to ignore."
"War is sweet to those who haven't tasted it."
You can rarely if ever talk your way out of asocial violence. A killer doesn't trash talk or intimidate. That's how you know he's serious because his mind is already made up.
When an aggressor doesn't care about your reasons, rules, or negotiation strategies, no other strategy tends to work.
Violence is a tool not a moral proposition.
Survival isn't the exclusive province for the bigger and stronger. It goes to the person who approaches his or her circumstances with the proper mindset, takes control of the situation, and acts to cause a decisive injury instead of reacting to the effects of someone else's choice.
Violence isn't chess at 90 MPH, it's a demolition derby and just like a demolition derby it's the driver with the most forward momentum that wins.
Criminals treat violence as business. They don't romanticize it.
Regular exposure and practice is the only way to learn a new skill and ingrain a new mindset. There's no substitute for actual experience.
Our prospective dictates our actions.
Anyone can do debilitating violence to anyone else. Size, speed, strength, and gender all matter far less than your mindset and interest. When you understand anatomy you strip the opponent's power down to almost nothing.
Meditate and visualize consequences ahead of time, so that in the heat of the moment you're relying on the decision making skills you've honed through sober practice rather than raw instinct.
Until you know the person they are foreign to you and don't live by the same social contract.
Asocial violence thrives on the unaware, unprepared, and the absent-minded.
Some asocial situations are impossible to escape once you're in them.
Nothing deters a criminal like a dog. This is why we love The Dog.
The foot is a great target contrary to popular opinion.
When it comes to trauma in the human body, all men and women are created equal.
In the goal of any violent encounter the goal is effectively the same: Use your brain to shut down your opponent's brain.
Aim in this context is the confidence and positivity of your self talk. It is the belief in your conscious mind that you can call upon the principles of your training to solve whatever problems you face.
Paranoia is a symptom of lack of preparation.
I really want to take the weekend self defense course or whatever it was that he offers (read it a year ago and I'm finally getting to the review now) that this guy offered. I think it's worth the few thousand gold. He helps his clients train slow because slow training helps you develop a plan. This is because you're more likely to suffer from a lack of accuracy than a lack of speed.
"Slow is smooth, smooth is fast, and fast is deadly."
He talks a lot about asocial situations. A situation is asocial if there is no communication and the other person is already taking physical action and there's no available exit. You can't talk (or possibly run) your way out of this one. You have to resort with violence. With that said, if you ask yourself, "should I hit you?" you should not. I really liked how he talked about deescalating the situation. So he's not a proponent of just 100% violence all the time. You actually have to read the book.
Let's dive into the notes:
What thoughts do you want emerging from your brain when you're life is on the line? "I'm done" or "Let's do this!"
Techniques get you killed, principles save your life. The rules of asocial violence are very simple: Don't make yourself a target, focus your mind, know the human body, act first, intend to injure, and don't stop until he's incapacitated or dead.
A real killer doesn't want to communicate anything with anyone. Angry face that you see on the movies are fake.
Anything we can do to be more alert makes us less likely to become a target. We're deaf and blind with out dumb earbuds in and glued to the screen. By wearing headphones, you attract those kinds of people that you're trying to avoid, because of asocial people don't have rules.
Humans are hard wired for violence. And yet our capacity for compassion has made us the most advanced species.
"Anytime you attempt to bury your head in the sand and deny the existence of violence in your world, you are not only giving up your power but you are giving it over to the perpetrators of random violence who's existence you are trying to ignore."
"War is sweet to those who haven't tasted it."
You can rarely if ever talk your way out of asocial violence. A killer doesn't trash talk or intimidate. That's how you know he's serious because his mind is already made up.
When an aggressor doesn't care about your reasons, rules, or negotiation strategies, no other strategy tends to work.
Violence is a tool not a moral proposition.
Survival isn't the exclusive province for the bigger and stronger. It goes to the person who approaches his or her circumstances with the proper mindset, takes control of the situation, and acts to cause a decisive injury instead of reacting to the effects of someone else's choice.
Violence isn't chess at 90 MPH, it's a demolition derby and just like a demolition derby it's the driver with the most forward momentum that wins.
Criminals treat violence as business. They don't romanticize it.
Regular exposure and practice is the only way to learn a new skill and ingrain a new mindset. There's no substitute for actual experience.
Our prospective dictates our actions.
Anyone can do debilitating violence to anyone else. Size, speed, strength, and gender all matter far less than your mindset and interest. When you understand anatomy you strip the opponent's power down to almost nothing.
Meditate and visualize consequences ahead of time, so that in the heat of the moment you're relying on the decision making skills you've honed through sober practice rather than raw instinct.
Until you know the person they are foreign to you and don't live by the same social contract.
Asocial violence thrives on the unaware, unprepared, and the absent-minded.
Some asocial situations are impossible to escape once you're in them.
Nothing deters a criminal like a dog. This is why we love The Dog.
The foot is a great target contrary to popular opinion.
When it comes to trauma in the human body, all men and women are created equal.
In the goal of any violent encounter the goal is effectively the same: Use your brain to shut down your opponent's brain.
Aim in this context is the confidence and positivity of your self talk. It is the belief in your conscious mind that you can call upon the principles of your training to solve whatever problems you face.
Paranoia is a symptom of lack of preparation.
This book after talking to my friend about a self defense course she enrolled her daughters in. She recommended this book around the same time. It was very interesting and I learned a lot.