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- Plot- or character-driven? Plot
- Strong character development? N/A
- Loveable characters? N/A
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.5
im rating this a 4.5 because it is a great thrill read but did include some disturbing content that may not be well-suited for teens. I think if death and injuries make you queasy this book may not be for you, I’d be happy to recommend a less gruesome thriller for you, just let me know! This book was a fun read, but not worth a purchase for me, a one and done for sure.
Graphic: Death, Stalking, and Car accident
Moderate: Addiction, Drug use, Gun violence, and Violence
Minor: Medical content and Alcohol
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
I kept seeing red flags with every action this man took, I mean I even wrote down "stalker" in my notes (yes, i took extensive notes, for the first time ever). I began the book with little knowledge of its contents but not enough to have a bias against him, but I still disliked him greatly. There are moments where I asked myself why the supporting characters thought those things were okay, if maybe they were meant to be complicit to the love-bombing and narcissism. That was until I remembered just how charming these individuals could be in real life. I thought surely others had seen this too, but I saw reviews full of readers who fell in love with Ryle alongside Lily, and I just couldn't understand why. So, I sat on the sidelines of this novel, an ever-involved reader, and pleaded with our main character (that was Lily btw) to leave him and I cheered her on when, spoiler alert, she did.
Now let me backtrack here and explain why I sort of liked Ryle at the end of the book. As I told my mom last week, I'm the girl who feels sorry for the serial killer in Criminal Minds (mind you- not all of them) because they experienced trauma and I think if just one person had helped them or been kind to them, maybe their life would have been different. But I also believe every person reaches a re-breaking point before they can heal, the point where they reset (like an orthopedic surgeon resets a bone) their life to heal back into a path where they can truly live and thrive again. For Ryle, unfortunately, this moment came after causing great harm and trauma to someone that I believe he may have actually loved. There is a scene at the end of the book where I knew, if the book continued on, he would have a huge character development arch of growth and healing. In the hospital room, after giving birth to their daughter, Ryle and Lily are sitting in the hospital bed talking. Lily asks him what he would say to his daughter if she came to him one day saying her husband did to her what Ryle did to Lily. He says he would tell their daughter to leave her husband, and they cry. In this moment, that part of me that has empathy for serial killers and is against the death penalty was spoken to, I could see that this character felt real remorse. It doesn't change what he's done and it will never, ever excuse it, and I expect that his life would be different after that day if the book continued on. We don't get a development arch though, well not in detail... we see a glimpse into the future and see hope that Ryle has truly changed.
As for as Lily's character, I loved her because she was a great choice of character, or maybe a better way to convey what I mean is that she was a well-built character. Generational Abuse. Compassionate. Established. Sensible. Intelligent. Successful. She was the perfect build for a character in this situation because she is the person no one expects to go through this situation. Someone who seemingly has their life together is the last person you'd expect to be suffering in silence. Unfortunately our biases and opinions of what an abuse victim or survivor should look like often barricades us from being the extended hand many of them so desperately need. People are quick to judge and blame victims/survivors for staying in their situations with little to no understanding of why they do, and that is why this book is so needed because that perspective shines through here.
I have great respect for the aspect of generational abuse that was included in this novel and that it was the namesake of the book, as "It Ends With Us" stands for the end of the cycle of abuse. I won't drone on about cycles, but generational cycles of all different kinds are the very root of brokenness within families. Healing from your root cycle issue and ending that generational problem is so important. Lily and her first love, Atlas, are both victims of Childhood Abuse, growing up in homes with Domestic Violence. Lily's abuse didn't necessarily reach the extent that Atlas' did but both of them suffered Emotional Abuse and Trauma from a young age. Big spoiler here... This is why I am so delighted that the author brought us, I mean Lily, back to Atlas at the end of the book. Because initially, when I realized "It Ends With Us" meant DV, I thought that would be a phrase shared between Lily & Atlas. (No worries, it is more heartfelt and touching that it was actually shared between Lily & her daughter.) In a way, their relationship also ends cycles of abuse in their families too. A line in this book that really broke my heart was when Lily is writing in her very cool, not-diary, Ellen Journal and states: "I'm a statistic now." Something Lily never thought would happen to her, nay- was adamant would not happen to her, did. She was abused by someone she loved and cared for.
Let's get to the hard part, the abuse. I'm not sure if I am desensitized to the graphic nature of some of what is depicted because of hours of true crime podcasts, but I personally did not feel that the abuse was depicted very graphically. I just wanted to put that note there for anyone who is concerned they may become triggered by reading this book. but I will add it is no easier to read just because its not as detailed. These scenes leave you scared for Lily, and her mom, and Atlas, they are definitely intense. Thankfully there is a bit of a shift in the scene when you can tell something is about to happen, or maybe that was just my own gut warning me. I wasn't shocked when he pushed her, either time, or the way in which he apologized immediately. I wasn't shocked when he attempted to sexually assault her, or bit her, or hit her. I wasn't surprised that all of this took place in less than a year. I was thrown off by the pregnancy, which only made me sad for her because, as my note so delicately put it: "it's just another bargaining chip for him". I could see the path of destruction she was headed down if she had stayed with him. The broken vases, shattered phones, the lack of safety in her flower shop, destroying everything she loved - there's a moment while showing her a balcony, after surprising her with a new apartment, where he mentions room for her to garden and my heart sank because I expected that to be... another bargaining chip. Another thing she loved for him to destroy. Thankfully the author did not go that dark, and I don't think she intended for Ryle's character to ever go there. I think the author truly meant it when she wrote the line, "there's no such thing as bad people, we're all just people who sometimes do bad things." I'm still wrestling with that one. Overall, the abuse was just the right amount of terrifying to convey the gravity of the situation without getting to graphic or overbearing.
Graphic: Child death, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Pregnancy, and Injury/Injury detail
Moderate: Child abuse, Infertility, Suicidal thoughts, Death of parent, and Abandonment
Minor: Cancer
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
4.75
What was particularly unique about this book is that it let us, the readers, get to know each character individually and together, while giving us generational background as well. Learning the families’ histories was just as important to me as learning about what the main characters wanted to do with the rest of their lives (they are in high school). It was also great to see artistic talents featured and encouraged in a predominantly Asian-American cast of characters (well, and just in general).
The only nit-picks I had was that the book was a bit slow and used a bit more cursing than necessary (IMO). I loved hearing about all the Vietnamese dishes and the beautiful sense of community among the characters. I also love reading about other cultures; this was my first fictional novel about Vietnamese-Americans. I saw some reviews complaining that some lines were written or spoken (for audiobook listeners) in Vietnamese and how they had to use Google Translate (which isn’t really effective in general btw), which was an annoying comment to see. It is very easy to read between the lines to understand what is being said in Vietnamese, but also it’s translated back to us in what the kids say most of the time. Of all things to gripe about, that’s just a ridiculous one.
I definitely enjoyed this read and hope to see more novels by this author because her writing style was engaging. I think it would be fun to play off all the main Shakespearean titles now, Hamlet, Midsummer Night’s Dream, etc… I would read or listen to those in a heartbeat.
Moderate: Cursing, Death, Racism, and War
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
2.5
Edit: Someone said Aaron is the reason they raised their standards for men and I am sobbing. 😭 What planet do we live on now? I don’t want to be here anymore. Good men exist, and they are not love-bombing, possessive, borderline stalkers like Aaron. “But he really loves her!” No- he’s obsessed with her! Find better, don’t settle for the first guy who says he’ll do anything for you, or the second, or the third. 🙄 Know your worth.
Graphic: Cursing and Sexual content
Moderate: Bullying
Minor: Adult/minor relationship, Racism, Grief, and Death of parent
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? N/A
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
5.0
Further, I loved the references to the film industry, guessing throughout the book which movie they were referring to based solely on the actors mentioned. It took me a while to realize one of the characters was based on Gerard Butler - even though there is a blurb thanking him at the beginning of the book *big facepalm*. Before that realization, I pictured Heath Ledger (10 Things I Hate About You era) as that character and I have to say - I decided to keep him in that role even after knowing it was supposed to be Butler and Ledger isn’t Scottish.
I will add that initially I did not like that the characters were beginning the story in their 30s. I would have preferred 25 maybe BUT after the entire story played out, I don’t think it could have been anything but a 30s love story set in LA. At 25, I want everything to be happening right now because that’s what society has told me I should want, but the story grounds the younger (& older) readers in displaying that getting to where we are supposed to be takes time for most of us. The main character goes through various internal conflicts and external struggles before deciding to take charge over her life - and still it’s not perfect. She gets her happily ever after, but it wasn’t just magic or irony because she worked for it.
As for content warnings, here’s what I can recall:
There is infidelity in the form of a kiss, twice in two separate chapters but is mentioned in a few other chapters. There’s also mention of adultery in two chapters. To my knowledge that was the only content that really warrants a warning.
Overall, I obviously enjoyed this book and may purchase a paperback or digital copy, as much fun as the audiobook was. I’m giving it 5 stars and I think those are well deserved.
Moderate: Infidelity
Minor: Sexual content
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
3.5
Moderate: Sexual content, Grief, Death of parent, and Alcohol
Minor: Toxic friendship
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
Now, onto the content warnings:
There is a scene/chapter that includes transphobia in the book. I didn’t even know one of the characters was trans until this chapter and I don’t think it’s mentioned again after it (which is kinda how it should be right? Just let the character exist without wrapping their identity around one aspect of their life).
Towards the beginning of the book, the main character picks up a book (book inception happens a lot btw) and there is mention of breasts spilling out of corsets. There’s also mentions of make out sessions and smooching and sex (without saying it) throughout when the character reads, for the most part though this book is fairly “clean”. (Which I personally prefer, if you’re going to mention make outs and sex, the way this author did it is a great example.)
There are also scenes that mention alcoholism, stalking, amnesia, heartbreak, abandonment, and mental illnesses. There is a scene at a hospital. There are moments when the character feels she has no control over her life. I personally found the read pretty light, but if you are in a bad head/mental space right now it may not be the time for you to read this book.
Finally, for those of the religious nature (I myself being Christian), there is mention of Greek Mythology in the book. Like a lot but I don’t want to totally give it away. The first time the character said a chant towards some of the Greek characters, albeit just because her drama teacher told her to, I felt uneasy (my gut proved to be right IJS). These characters are made to be real in this book, so if that bothers you then you will not enjoy the book.
Overall: I enjoyed the book! I’m not sorry for it and I’m going to buy a physical copy when I can find one locally. Oh yeah, I listened through Audible, the performance of this book by Amanda Dolan was very good - if you like audiobooks, this is a fun read. I also really love the cover of the book, I just think Shannon Hale did a good job with making this book pretty friendly for all.
Graphic: Bullying
Moderate: Transphobia, Medical content, and Toxic friendship
Minor: Alcoholism, Drug use, Mental illness, Sexual content, and Abandonment
- Plot- or character-driven? Plot
- Strong character development? N/A
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? N/A
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.25
Spoilers below:
As someone saving herself for marriage, I appreciate the nod towards doing so (I’ve yet to see someone write a character that actually makes it to marriage, which is a little frustrating but I digress).
Moderate: Sexual content
Minor: Pregnancy